What’s your definition and standards for success? What attributes or characteristics of a person do you think helps them achieve their goals?
No one becomes successful overnight. It can take months, years or even decades of hard work, persistence and unyielding passion to unlock your ultimate goal and finally reach success. Chances are, you’ll dwell on several failures and mistakes that will further prepare you for when that time comes. Once you’ve achieved that, you’ve got to do everything in your strength to hold on to that position.
You are your own worst enemy—not your competitors or critics—it’s your own self. Years of hard work can get wiped away in one major mistake. This happens, and when it happens, you’ll have to do everything in your strength to build yourself back up.
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It’s important to be self-aware and conscious of your beliefs, behavior and perceptions as it defines who you are. That one insensitive tweet can take you down in a blink. Don’t destroy your road to success; or if you’ve already reached that height, don’t ruin your own success. Drop these 6 egregious behaviors.
Letting others get under your skin.
Regardless of what industry you’re in, there will always be people around you who have nothing to say but negative remarks. Don’t let it affect you though, every industry has this; you’ve got to sway with the tides.
Constant worrying about these things may cause your subconscious mind to limit your capabilities of experiencing, taking action and developing new ideas and possibilities. Another thing, don’t compare yourself to others. Not only will it diminish your determination but may also lose your love of your craft. Instead of wallowing in the corner, celebrate their success and see it as an inspiration to challenge your skills and push your limits. Ignore the others unless otherwise completely necessary (you know the circumstances). Just focus and do your thing.
It’s alarming how many times you’ve nagged about how much your office coffee tastes like it’s brewed 10 times and how annoying your officemate is for leaving her desk unkempt every single day. But whatever you’re about to say next, pause and think before you utter.
It’s fun to complain about these little (and major) things and how much work you have on your desk but hearing it each day only spreads negativity in your work environment. Your colleague could be sick of hearing all your complaints but has no heart to tell you so. Do all yourselves a favor: stop complaining and start seeing the good in the little things.
Poor communication skills.
Great communication skills—both verbal and nonverbal takes you a long way. Practice self-awareness and before you utter a word out of your mouth, let it pass through your head first and filter what needs be. This way you won’t regret anything that comes out your mouth; this way you prevent any unintentional insensitive, rude and offensive remarks.
Stop interrupting someone when they’re speaking and actively listen. Communication is a two-way street so hear out what others have to say. This skill is the foundation of every relationship especially in your professional life. Learn how to communicate effectively and it will lead you to success.
Fear of change.
There’s no way up if you keep on resisting to change and choose to live in the past. Regardless of your industry, change is constant; everything is temporary. Trends come and go. Companies continue to look for and develop innovative products and services time and time again.
Don’t close your door and box yourself from change because it’s inevitable. You need to shift your mindset, let the fear fuel your imagination and think differently for it’s how you survive and keep your relevance in the industry.
Not taking risks.
When was the last time you tried out a new restaurant? Have you conquered any fears lately? Don’t be afraid to fail; don’t be afraid to take risks. You’re in the industry where it’s okay to make mistakes, take responsibility and learn from them.
Don’t be afraid of failing; be more terrified of not trying. We’re not implying you grab all opportunities offered to “take the risk”, we want you to take calculated risks that must help you grow and learn. After evaluating whether a risk is worth taking, pursue the ones that would help you grow and move forward to reach your goal. Often times, failures guide you to the right direction.
Confusing busy with productivity.
Yes, you may be busy with a lot of things but that doesn’t necessarily equate to being productive. Perhaps you’re busy because you let the pile of work sit there for hours and days before you actually worked on it?
You may be working on a desk-full of work but are they the right tasks to do? In the corporate world, working long hours may outright look “busy.” Yet, the most deserving of a reward and nod for success are the tasks or projects that serves impact, makes progress, and strives toward long-term objectives.
What other characteristics and behaviors damages one’s success? We’d like to know—share it with us!
About the author: Aside from providing tips and hacks in personal and career development, Chie Suarez is also a resident writer for The Fordham Company—one of Australia’s top celebrity management companies and a major celebrity speakers bureau.