How to Choose Your Choices for a Better Outcome

Choosing your choices

Choices. Life is full of them. In fact, if you look at it from a certain perspective, just about everything you are or do is the result of making choices in one way or another.

Crossroads, Trail, Cartel, Signal

Certainly, there are situations where the ability to choose is taken from you. Situations and chance are variables that arise in everyone’s life from time to time. Here’s the thing though: Even when we are thrust into a situation, not of our choosing, we still make choices in so much as how it affects us or how we respond to it.

I like to think that every time I’m put into an unplanned (by me) situation I will make good decisions.

But I don’t always.

Sometimes I just make stupid choices. Such is life. To some degree, we all make mistakes now and then. We all make less than good decisions. Even the best of us, the smartest, wisest and most forward thinking have or will succumb to it.

I heard a wise man say once, “As long as you have breath still in you, you’ll make mistakes.”

It’s just a part of life, man. It’s not typically the mistakes that are so horrible (although I’ve made some pretty bad ones!) The problems from the mistake comes when we either don’t learn from it or willfully repeat it. Once again, it’s a choice.

So as I am on this journey of self-improvement and moving myself from Point A to B; A being where I currently am and B being where I want to be as far as the different aspects of my life goes, I realize that a whole lot of the direction I take is based on my choices at each and every given moment.

Sand, Footsteps, Footprints, Beach

Now I’m not claiming any particular crystal clear insight on this stuff. I am however, claiming that I am beginning to understanding the mysterious and multi-layered person that I am. The one who has all this untapped talent. The one that does really dumb things from time to time. The one who has gone through some tough shit and come out the other side a little wiser and smarter for the experience.

Just like you. (Whether you want to admit it or not.)

The thing is, I’ve just decided that the more I pay attention to my personal What, Where, When, Why and How, the better my ability to make choices that will move me forward.

 I mean, LIFE IS A DECISION man, it’s a CHOICE.

The way I see it, if we live in lack, it is important that we acknowledge and own that fact that we, in one way or another, made the choice to live in lack.

The opposite is true as well. If we live in abundance, we do so because of the choices we have made. And we need to acknowledge and own those as well. That’s those ‘Feel Good’ personal moments we get when our intentions, decisions, and efforts come together in the way or much of the way we intend.

And in both cases, it was our choices, our decisions that brought us to that place or experience.

 Proof? How about the time you knew of an upcoming opportunity you wanted to take advantage of? You know about it sometime before, so you had time to prepare. And you either:

A) Just kept putting the preparation off, knowing you had time to get to it later. (Let’s call it what it is OK? Procrastination.)

Face, Boy, Head, Confrontation


B) You decided that it was worth your extra effort to be ready to pluck the fruit of this opportunity as soon as it was ripe.

Climb, The Activity, Silhouette, Freedom

Either way, for good or for bad, you’ve made a choice and now you get to live with it.

If it turns out in a positive way and you were ready for it, good for you. And if you miss it or flub it due to your lack of preparation and it’s a great thing you just missed, good for you (if that’s your thing.)

Either way, you get what you play for.

This is such a big deal to me because I now understand what I should have understood most of my adult life. Somewhere along the way though, I missed it. How sad. The good thing for me now is that I do get it.

And another thing I’ve found is that it’s never too late to start from where you are. Regardless of age, location, situation or circumstance.

 Start where you are.

In order for us to change, we have to be the instrument of change.

It is no one’s fault but yours. Succeed of fail. Prosperity or poverty. Abundance or lack.

Let me ask you a question, (you can keep the answer to yourself)

Did someone twist your arm and make you smoke weed? Or progress to harder drugs? Or make you take that first drink? How about made you make less than upright decisions? Quit a good job because you just knew your boss was an ass? Or made you make an investment in your future? Or get an education? Or go the extra mile? And on and on and on.

Let me stand clear on this one point: I’m sure there is a very small percentage out there that in reality did have their arm twisted and was forced into something, having all choice removed from their power. And for those who fall into that category, I apologize.

But mostly….just sayin’.

See there is no one that can change your attitude and outlook. Those are personal decisions. Ask any former prisoner or war that has survived that ordeal and come out of it to create a good life. Ask anyone that has stared death in the eye, whether from illness, injury or some other circumstance and come out on the other side and made their life better.

And that, dear reader, is what I am talking about.

 Life is full of decisions. Full of choices.

Woman, Beach, Sand, Sunset, Tropical

We can be grateful and thankful or we can be can be resentful and petty. There is an old saying that goes something like:

Life will either make you bitter or better.

I hope you choose better. And that you own it. And that when things aren’t going your way and it’s all uphill and the road is broken and the path is hard to see that you can still choose to remain on your course.

It will get better. But you have to believe it. You have to choose the belief in who you are and what you’re about.

Well, that was long-winded. I said all that to say this:

I recently found myself in a bad place within me. I had a shitty outlook, a horrible attitude, saw nothing around me worth spitting on and had a general “What’s the use? What’s the point?” opinion of myself and the world around me and my place in it.

Then like a bolt from the blue, I remembered something I read.

I learned that if I am feeling worthless, miserable, hopeless and all the negative stuff, it is because I have decided to let myself feel that way.

And that means I can change it and move out of that bad mental place and into one of hope, of worth, of possibility whenever I choose to. I don’t have to stay there!

So once again people, I’m not any type of mental health professional (I know, it’s pretty obvious.) I’m just a guy that is working diligently on myself with the purpose driven thought of living in my purpose.

This, to me, is just plain common sense and one more step in my journey from Point A to Point B.

I’m no longer who I was (thank God!) and I am not who I am going to be quite yet.

But I have decided today to be thankful for the opportunities to move forward in the direction I want to go.

Here’s to you and your journey! Thanks for spending some time with me.

Bruce is a Life Coach and Traditional Martial Arts Instructor as well as being a successful musician. His blog can be found at


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